Nobody Knows What They’re Doing (And That’s Okay): Real Talk for Authors Navigating the Chaos

Publishing a book isn’t as glamorous or clear-cut as some would have you believe—and if you’ve ever left a writing conference more overwhelmed than inspired, you’re not alone. In this episode of Pros Talking Prose, Troy Lambert and I sit down for a post-conference debrief, complete with raw reflections, industry frustrations, and one important truth:

Nobody really knows what they’re doing. And that’s okay.

Behind the Booth: What Authors Really Talk About at Conferences

I had the chance to attend the Storymakers conference, and while there were plenty of takeaways, one thing was glaringly clear: most authors are deeply unsure about their next steps. From newly published writers to seasoned veterans, the common refrain at my booth was, “So… now what?”

Writers are swimming in craft-focused sessions—plotting, character arcs, world-building—but often leave without a clue how to run an author business or market their books.

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Good Advice, Bad Advice, and the Flat-Out Harmful

We heard some great quotes at Storymakers—like Terry Pratchett’s timeless advice:
“The first draft is just you telling yourself the story.”

But there was also plenty of questionable guidance floating around:

  • “Writers should build a tolerance to feeling stupid.”
  • “You don’t need an editor before submitting to a publisher.”
  • “Self-publishing is what you do if you can’t make it traditionally.”

Let’s be clear: every author deserves a professional process, no matter their path. Industry standards matter in all formats, and if you think traditional publishing doesn’t come with editing expectations, take a look at submission guidelines for top publishers like Penguin or HarperCollins.

And as for feeling stupid? You’re not. You’re learning. And learning takes time, repetition, and grace.

Marketing: The Overwhelming Elephant in the Room

Over 90% of the authors who approached me at Storymakers had the same concern: marketing.

Not just the “what do I post on Instagram?” kind of marketing, but the kind that asks:

  • How do I find my audience?
  • What’s my message?
  • When do I take which steps?

That is a broad question. It’s like asking what you want to eat for dinner and getting the answer, “Food.” We talk about what I’m building now: a personalized marketing timeline that takes into account risk tolerance, personality, budget, and author goals. If you want to hear more about that as it develops, be sure to join my email list by emailing me at [email protected] and let me know you want to stay in the loop.

Final Takeaways: Author Events, Self-Publishing Stigma, and Owning Your Path

This episode of Pros Talking Prose also covers:

  • The subtle (and not-so-subtle) self-publishing stigma still present at some events
  • Why indie authors need to own their space—and their professionalism
  • The danger of romanticizing publishing deals
  • How to handle the pressure of “looking legitimate” in an industry that’s always shifting

We end the episode with some encouragement: don’t be afraid to take up space. Even if you’re figuring it out as you go. Especially if you are.

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Stacey Smekofske

Stacey Smekofske is an editor and author coach for award winning and best-selling authors. She specialized in indie published authors and helps them publish beautiful and marketable books. Stacey’s editing style is energetic, versatile, and responsive while helping authors craft compelling stories and build their influence. She graduated magna cum laude with a degree in communications and English from BYU Idaho and has been an educator and editor for over 18 years. She is a member of the Idaho Writers Guild, board member of the Idaho Writers and Editors Association, member of the Northwest Editors Guild and the American Copy Editors Society (ACES). She has a certificate in copy editing with Poynter University and ACES. Stacey has a myriad of life experiences and knowledge that allows her to edit many novel genres including fantasy, thriller, historical, horror, children’s literature, memoir, business, and self-help. With fortitude and compassion, Stacey labors with zealous writers to produce passionate and inspiring writing.

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